An independent CONSULTANT WHO SEES POSITIVITY AS A GUIDING FORCE
On Growing from Adversity:
"The biggest transition in my life was probably in the Fall of 2011. I’d just left my corporate job and broken up with the man I lived with at the time. I found myself on the brink of 30, with no income, and living with my parents. There were some dark days and although it didn’t feel like it at the time, breaking loose was the best decision I’ve ever made. Soon after, I met my husband, started freelancing, and began living life as a digital nomad. Going through such a hard time taught me about strength, self-awareness and the importance of living in the moment. I learned so much about who I am and what’s important to me. Adversity sucks when you’re going through it, but it helps you grow."
"Going through such a hard time taught me about strength, self-awareness and the importance of living in the moment."
On Living in the Present:
"When my husband and I first started dating, we were both done with the corporate life and were taking time to explore what we wanted to do. We were fortunate to be in a position to travel and just take each day as it came, so naturally, this stressed me out completely. No plan? No idea where we were going? Where did we see ourselves in 5 years? I learned to chill out and enjoy the ride as there is no point in stressing about everything. Sometimes you just need to live in the moment and appreciate what’s right in front of you, without worrying about what comes next. A big turning point for me was when we took off on a coast-to-coast road trip across the US that we had spent all of 2 hours planning. I never could have done that before, but I’m so glad I did as it is one of the coolest things I’ve ever experienced."
"Sometimes you just need to live in the moment and appreciate what’s right in front of you, without worrying about what comes next. "
On Overcoming the fear of failing:
"I’m very vulnerable, but I try not to show it. I want to project confidence and humor, but on the inside I’m terrified of failure. It’s hard for me to accept that I’ll never be perfect – for some reason I feel like that’s what’s expected of me - silly, right? In the past I’ve let fear of failure hold me back from moving forward with ideas and projects. Now I have this “rule” that if I catch myself not doing something because of fear, then I have to do it. It works pretty well!
For me, bravery is being scared of something, but doing it anyways. My main focus is on overcoming fear of failure in order to achieve what I want in life. It’s not always easy but it’s not as hard as you’d think either. The key is knowing when fear is messing with your head. I’m working with a fantastic Success Coach that helps me identify what stops me from moving forward. For example, for weeks I’d been putting off responding to a potential client's tender. My coach helped me see that fear of not being selected was driving my procrastination. Once I understood that, I was able to complete my bid response – the urge to put it off was gone."
"Now I have this 'rule' that if I catch myself not doing something because of fear, then I have to do it."
On the value of networking:
"Networking isn’t a dirty word. “Networking” always conjures up images of name tags, business suits, cocktails, and shallow conversation. I’ve learned this is a stereotype and that building a network can actually be wonderful and rewarding. In reality, networking is just meeting people, who are often cool and interesting people that you’ll enjoy getting to know. All of my freelance work has come to me through my network in some shape or form. I’ve met people in many different ways: through friends, family, ex-colleagues, suppliers, online courses and social media. Who knew that Instagram was such a great place to meet people with similar interests?"
Fearing the worst-case scenario:
"I have these brief moments of panic where I worry that everything I’ve built could fall apart and disappear from one day to the next. When that happens, I like to do a little ‘What’s the worst case scenario?’ exercise where I visualize exactly what would happen if my clients vanished. It helps me see that it wouldn’t be the end of the world. I could end up workless and living with my parents. There are worse things out there and you can always start over again. Believe me, I’ve done it before."
"I like to do a little ‘What’s the worst case scenario?’ exercise... I could end up workless and living with my parents. There are worse things out there and you can always start over again."
On Attracting positivity:
"I truly believe in the power of energy and intention. You know those sparkling people who seem to have all the luck? Then there’s those who complain and always seem to have something going wrong in their lives? I don’t know if it’s karma or something else, but I do believe that positivity attracts positivity, negativity loves negativity. I’ve found this to be oddly true in my life. When I was closed off in a difficult relationship and a job that no longer excited me, the outlook was grey. When it rains, it pours, and things only got harder as other difficult events piled on. It’s only when I decided to let everything go that good things started happening again. I met new people, got offered freelance work, travelled to awesome places, and started building the life I have today. It was such a positive cycle."
"It’s only when I decided to let everything go that good things started happening again."
On being mindful:
"I don’t have a mantra per se, but I do have a daily intention to be mindful and to live in the moment. I use a great app called Headspace. Mindfulness meditation has such a positive impact on my life, my ability to appreciate the journey, and my capacity to be productive."