It is inevitable that we are going to spend time with people by default: through school, work and other social gatherings. It’s all good as long as we are mindful of when we are socializing by default. But the lines are often blurred between engaging in a default connection vs. in a meaningful one, more often out of laziness and convenience.
While default may be convenient and sometimes inevitable, one cannot ignore how it feels: flat, dull, forced, boring, and unfulfilling. It doesn’t take us anywhere positive and greater, and could even at times be damaging to our self-esteem. So, for the moments in your life where you have the freedom to choose, choose who you spend your time with wisely.
Choose people who get it. Choose people who get your humor, but also know how to make you laugh. Choose people who empathize with you when you’re down (but also when you’re feeling great), who listen without judging, who ask you how you’re feeling (really feeling), who call you every time they’re in town on business, who share their friends with you, who encourage you in your endeavors, and who won’t shy away from telling you the hard truth if it’s to better your life.
Choose people who just get it.
By Charlotte Haimes